Instincts are important. Trusting your gut should come first. Sometimes, I had ignored it, out of self-preservation. Not driving myself crazy, knowing what was happening, but literally not being able to change the situation myself at that very moment. However, with time, in my situation, it snow-balled quickly.
I thank my HP everyday for the program that my husband is currently in. It's 14 months, but the change is great, not only for him, but for us as a family. It is an answer to prayer, but it's not the end all-save all that I wish it could be.
Relapse is still there, always lurking to try to steal souls.
Loving an addicts, having kids with an addict, being a parent of an addict... well, it's not easy. Thankfully there is support and many people who have been where we are. It's good to know, that we are not alone.