Thank you SpiderQueen!
I have been trying to do lots of research and trying to absorb as much as I can here. It is hard to read the research and truly understand what it "looks" like on an A.
That aspect is just now appearing in front of me, though it does not seem to be at the grand scale that is mentioned in a lot of posts here at SR. But from what I gather from all of you is that it is the same, no matter who, no matter what, no matter why.
It is that knowledge that I am having a hard time with I guess.
I will keep posting...for as long as all of you will have me. It TRULY helps!