I know it feels like it is all on him and what he does now, but please don't neglect that this is a separation period for you, too. Is the current situation really giving you an idea of what
life will be like if he chooses not to seek recovery and you decide to move on? I know all about 'needs', but really...three months of abstinence isn't gonna kill you. And it just might provide a little clarity on what you really want and need in the long run.