The purpose of him moving out was to a.) give me and the kids serenity (check) and b.) to put in his lap that a choice has to be made, us or the beer. The end result, for me, is he stops drinking and works the steps to better himself or I'm moving on. I know that I'm still in the limbo phase of watching his actions, as I know that will prove what his choice is. I'm just not sure if I'm being too weak in allowing our intimate time to distract him, or make him think that I'm just going to cave and let him come home. (He has yet to attend meetings, find an alternative to AA, or any type of counseling. He's just, and I quote, "white knuckling it".)
At the end of the day, it's us or his drinking. He either gets better (mentally and emotionally) or he continues on his self destructive path alone. I just don't want to send mixed signals, or confuse myself anymore, thorough the process of him deciding.