I guess I do not see the Versus part of this.
Being Self-Sufficient AND Supporting (or getting support for) Kids ARE BOTH Good Things, right?
Yunno the Eastern Philosophy thing --
Between Two Goods -- Choose Both.
(and the converse, Between Two Evils -- Choose Neither).
IF you have both Self-Sufficiency AND Support . . . THEN the worst you are going to wind up with is SURPLUS. I am not seeing ANY downside to this. So you do a College Fund (or therapy fund, around here) for the kids.
*We* are not drunks, right? I mean we are not somehow compelled to consume or drink the whole bottle, right?
Maybe that is residual Stinkin-Thinkin from being around A's? Dunno.
What is not to love in surplus?
You know the somewhat famous Charles Dickens / David Copperfield quote . . .
"Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure nineteen pounds nineteen and six, result happiness. Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure twenty pounds nought and six, result misery."
It tends to be true.
Wilkins Micawber - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia