You know, my A was ALWAYS chewing this watermelon gum at work. His drink of choice is blackberry brandy, and this thread has me wondering if that was b/c he did in fact drink at work, altho he denies ever having done so...I do know that he always drank fruity beverages at home so that if I smelled anything sweet and/or fruity, he could claim it was his juice or soda.
It is so hard to get this kind of thinking out of your head! As others have said, the trust is gone. Don't know if it can/will return in time or not.