He has proven that he lies. He has proven he is still lazy. He has proven he smokes behind your back. He has proven he is not in control of his anger. Tell me again why you would feel any guilt about not having him in your home??
I live in MO. I will pass along what my attorney told me. When I asked him if I could legally make my husband leave our home, he said the judges here will not do that unless you have an exparte. I don't need an exparte against my husband. He said that normally here a judge will not rule on who stays in the home at all until a divorce is final.
So...just food for though for you. He may eventually just come home and you may not be able to force him to leave. I recommend you consult with an attorney on this issue so you have a plan in place as it sounds like he is becoming very aggressive about wanting to be back home.
I wish you the best of luck with all of it.