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Old 02-01-2014, 07:44 PM
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Gottalife
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Hi Anoroha,

When I first got sober I didn't have much idea about feelings. Then as time passed I began to experience all kinds of feelings, good and bad, in varying strengths, and often I did not know what they were. I wouldn't have known an honest feeling if I fell over it. I was growing up. Previously I had got all the feelings I wanted from a bottle, now I was learning to live as a human being for the first time. It takes time.

My solution was in two simple prayers:
"God, please take these stupid thoughts away" and
"God, please send me the right thought or action for this situation"

I still use them today, and they still work.

Then there is the advice in the big book:

"As we go through the day we pause, when agitated or doubtful, and ask for the right thought or action. We constantly remind ourselves we are no longer running the show, humbly saying to ourselves many times each day "Thy will be done." We are then in much less danger of excitement, fear, anger, worry, self-pity, or foolish decisions. We become much more efficient. We do not tire so easily, for we are not burning up energy foolishly as we did when we were trying to arrange life to suit ourselves."
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