Hi Regina,
Welcome. It sounds like you are in a really difficult situation and I am sorry to hear that. If I were your husband I think the best thing you could do for me is to kick me out. I realize that is MUCH easier said than done and I am not really saying this is what you must do, but do keep this option. If my husband had kicked me out I probably would have been very angry and upset but would truly have realized (I hope) what my alcoholism was doing to the family.
A lot of people here have a lot more experience than I have and I am sure many will disagree with me. I know others will chime in.
Mostly, welcome and keep on posting.