Thanks to you all.....
The decision is made to leave it is now just about the when and how parts. When do I tell him? How will he react? What to do from here?
He can tell I am not feeling this anymore but, once I say it..... well, its said, you know? And we are stuck in this lease and it is not like one of us can realistically move out. Both of us gave up our places to move in the new place and neither one of us wants the monthly bills alone.
Part of me thinks maybe I should just stick it out for another 6 months until the lease is up and then tell him but, that is kind-of like living in a purgatory for both of us. At-least once its said maybe we can plan some way out.
It is tough. I spent 7 years with him on/off. Longer than I was with my ex-husband. I think I stayed for a long time because I was so sick but now, as I get better... well, I am just changing and he is not. It is truly a case of outgrowing the whole thing. I am no longer a weak co-dependent wreck. I see that I deserve to be truly happy.
Why could I not have figured this out before we moved in together?????
Jess