I guess sometimes I am confused by the messages we get. For example, look at these two statements:
Statement #1:
"Recovery and sobriety comes first. I am vigilant, strong, and I grow and learn how to live by this code. My sobriety is extremely valuable and is a priority in my life."
Statement #2:
"Don't feel the need to socially disclose anything mentioned in Statement #1. My habits are not important to others. I should carry on with life as normal when it comes to meeting new people. Not drinking is no big deal."
Can you blame a guy for asking if the emperor wearing any clothes here? I'm not angry or upset - just pondering I guess. I think the bottom line is that all of these "recovery rules" are really just a bunch of thoughts and ideas, cobbled together. They really don't make sense, and a concrete way to live in recovery does not exist. Living in recovery is not so much a science - it's about finding a comfort zone. I guess that comes with a lot of trial and error.