After we get some sober time, the days don't feel like they did at the beginning. It's not a case of every day feeling like we have to fight through the day without drinking, be hypervigilant etc. Being a non drinker becomes the new norm in our life.
We get beyond a point where alcohol controls us either by us drinking, or wanting to drink it.
That is why so often we hear people say "one day at a time" because looking at forever, or the rest of our lives feels overwhelming. But many many things in life feel that way if we look at them like that.
When my kids were young, if I parented day by day, whatever came up, I was fine, but if I thought ahead of all the things that MIGHT happen between now and infinity...I would totally freak.
Same if I think about aging. Day by day, it's fine, but when I fast forward to all that I might have to contend with....I feel overwhelmed.
Most of us find we really can deal with things, and enjoy life, etc...when we stay busy with what's in front of us.
congrats on your sober time! It gets better!