Just your kids? Or both of yours?
As far as the Program -- sounds like AA was getting in the way of HIS personal program.
So you going to stick with this? If so, (or even if not) yunno about Alanon?
They will teach you the 3 C's. YOU cannot cure, control or cause it.
We HAVE ALL Heard that *we* cause their . . . Alcohol, Addictions, Anorexia, Ingrown Toenails, etc., etc.
Taking self-responsibility is not a real strong A trait, to say the least.