I have never read a post on this forum that started out,
" I met the most out of control, obnoxious, cruel, bed wetting, insensitive, raging, violent, selfish drunk, AND I fell madly in love with him"
It really is to bad this isn't how this disease works.
Certainly, if we witnessed their true behavior the first time in meeting them, we all would have ran away.
Best to acknowledge what today is, that wonderful, kind, caring man, and the active alkie are the SAME guy. This is who he currently is, is that good enough for you?