Amen! This is nothing you don't already know. If he wants to change, look at actions over the course of a looonnnggg time.
Hugs.
Originally Posted by
SparkleKitty 
If he TALKS about getting help, then he's just TALKING about it.
If he SHOWS you he's getting help, then you have some decisions to make.
Until then, nothing has changed. Take some deep breaths, focusing only on the in and out of each breath. You're overwhelmed and need to calm down. (((((hugs, my dear)))))