Originally Posted by
FunkyReggae 
How enabling would it be to help him get set up in an apartment?
wow. You have it bad, don't you?
Grown ups do not need "help" -- whatever that is.
Let him be a Grown up.
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As far as
He just still doesn't seem totally honest with himself.
You are not familiar with the AA Big Book, yet?
Take a look at the opening to Chapter 5, How it Works >>>
These are your own words.
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How it works
RARELY HAVE we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path. Those who do not recover are people who cannot or will not completely give themselves to this simple program, usually men and women who are constitutionally incapable of being
honest with themselves. There are such unfortunates. They are not at fault; they seem to have been born that way. They are naturally incapable of grasping and developing a manner of living which
demands rigorous honesty. Their chances are less than average. There are those, too, who suffer from grave emotional and mental disorders, but many of them do recover if they have the capacity to be
honest.
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Whole Big Book, free, online >>>
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A Very Good Read.
Meanwhile -- stay clear of this mess.