It's hard since I have had no relationship with my bro or his family really ever. His wife is mentally ill and probably an alcoholic in her own right. it's a really toxic situation. I told my wife when this all started coming to a head that I wish I could do something for those kids. I just don't know how I could without opening myself up to his wife's attacks. This divorce is really ugly and she has some things to my sibling who has been putting him up. trying to sabotage things.