Originally Posted by
FunkyReggae 
I want to support him because he is sober, I believe that, but he still acts like a child, makes terrible decisions and just doesn't seem completely honest. I just don't know at this stage, where he is in a program, if I should still be concerned I am enabling him by giving him a place ect. I DONT TRUST HIM. That is the biggest issue. He has lied some much in the last 3 months. He has been "fired" from the same job 5 times only to find out that was a lie. Done to manipulate emotions so we will help him. open our homes, feel sorry.
Sounds like what you may be dealing with is "Dry Drunk." If he is actually even is dry. For months after quitting, they can still be crazy, and beyond that if they are not working a program.
This part: I DONT TRUST HIM.
GOOD FOR YOU. Means your brains are functioning correctly. Super. Listen to yourself.
Real deal -- you cannot lift him up, but he sure can take you (and anyone around) down. Keep your distance, protect you and your kids, and other family if needed.
Anyway the guilt is terrible .
What to do genuine GOOD? That is a big cure for guilt.
Do what you can to help his kids. They are big victims in all this.