This is likely WAY beyond Alcohol or Addictions.
Sounds like Textbook Mental Illness. A particular nasty flavor that tracks along with some addicts/alcoholics.
Go look up Zoso on the board right below this one . . .
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ears-gone.html
and . . . .
[L3] Leaving: Detaching from the Wounds of a failed BPD Relationship