If a program or treatment doesn't work for a person, I really see no point in them, especially if they are still new and struggling, to try to stay and reform it.
Makes more sense, and seems more productive to move on to something that they find success with and "give back" to that.
stating that they didn't find what they need in AA (or any other program) isn't hating on it. It's just stating a fact. Being an atheist isn't hating on deities or those who believe in them, it's just not believing in them oneself.
I don't play golf, but I'm not hating on those who do. I don't eat lamb, but I don't think people who eat it are inferior to me.
I am an alcoholic who uses the 12 steps but found myself incompatible with AA..go figure. I'm also an atheist who belongs to a non theistic religion...isn't life grand!