Thanks everyone, I have decided to tell my brother-in-law first, since he has no idea either. Then depending on what he says or thinks, I will ask my mother-in-law to meet me for dinner or lunch one day and tell her. I know it'll crush her, but I need help with this... it's too much for me to do alone. Even though my AH is denying everything still, I know my gut... especially after finding drugs in his wallet last night.