Originally Posted by jdooner

It sounds like you mother was and is awful. It also sounds like you hold a ton of resentment towards her. From your posts, no matter what you do - talk to her, deliver her a letter, nothing is probably going to change her. So i guess you might want to ask what you want out of it. I don't think a relationship with her sounds healthy. But carrying all the resentments is only killing you inside - from the sounds of it. It sounds like understanding and forgiving her might be the best way to move on with your life? I know it sounds crazy but forgiveness can really empower you to let go of the resentments and baggage.

If you are in AA then this is what step 4 and 5 are all about.

BTW - It sounds like you are doing an amazing job and you are so strong to have gone through what you have