Hi Raider, I come from the other side of the house. My wife is an alcoholic. One of the first things you learn in AlAnon is the 3 C's.
I didn't cause it.
I can't control it.
I can't cure it.
So, you can drop the quilt about your husband. Alcoholic or not he will either drink or not drink and that is his choice and totally outside your control.
It also takes away the quilt as an excuse for why you can have a drink.
Good luck with your recovery whenever you choose to start.
Your friend,