You know what, been there and never saw it either! My husband has been sober for almost 14 years after his first go around with heart failure (alcohol induced cardio myopathy). I've never witnessed him drink but heard the war stories. When I was drinking I selfishly never thought how hard that must have been for him to be around it. I never considered how I must have thrown it in his face (not literally). And now that I am sober I know I couldn't have been as strong as he had those 12 years I drank around him!
Your hubs sounds like a pretty stand up guy, maybe just for today you could do this WITH him
