Hi Pippi;
I know it hasn't been easy, but you've risen to the task and it is almost behind you.
I'm glad you and your mother have such a strong relationship.
Keep your positive attitude-that brings it's own peace and also I think an upward spiral.
Don't worry about what those a$$hats think you should do or not do.
You have chosen the path which offers you the most freedom in the long run
though the short term is steeper. You will get there and after you are set up
in Europe, he can kiss your a$$hat. Who knows how long he will stay employed
with his drinking on the increase. Having college figured out yourself is a very smart idea.
I also think the secret will out ere long. His drinking buddies will start catching his crap
since you aren't there to take it anymore. I've seen it many many times.
Happy New Year!