truthfully, i think you enjoy the drama you have created.
you never seem to consider your child's welfare.
you are still spying and listening in on his phone messages? why?
you are not done and you are responsible for a child....i hope you might step back and examine why you are so immature with parenting, why you need to keep feeding this interaction.
who cares what his parents know or think? you obviously.
maybe your daughter needs to spend some time in a stable environment with her father while you work through this?