I wouldn't dream of telling you what I think you should do Trebor. When I set out on my recovery journey, Itook on a suggestion which was before I could begin thinking about winning loved ones back, I had to concentrate on winning myself back. Just doing the right thing. Having patience, and acceptance that I will never control other people and they mightn't make the decisions I'd like.
I practice this on a daily basis still - even though following much guidance from counsellors, peers & my sponsor, many bridges I thought I had burned forever are slowly being rebuilt. I will say 'stay strong & stay connected.'