Oh, NCG, so sorry you are having to deal with this crap from your bf. You deserve better. Unfortunately, it sounds like you are on 2 different levels, with him being on a very dangerous level. I hope you are able to do what is best for you. You have come so far and need to put you and your sobriety first. If your bf does not respect that and is as insensitive as leaving a bottle out like he did then I think you need to move on without him, for now anyway. I'm sure you love him very much and this cannot be easy for you. Big hugs to you and just know we are here for you.