sober.
i looked that word up about a year after quitting drinking.
and yeah, one definition is "not being intoxicated".
so sure, it's correct according to the dictionary.
but on a recovery site?
there's always lots of discussion whether sobriety and abstinence are the same, and never the twain shall meet.
however, seems to me that on a recovery site "sobriety" most certainly doesn't get defined as not being intoxicated.
Karate, you went and drank. i don't care about that, really. what i care about much more is the stories we tell ourselves when we go back to it.
stories about control, about what's alright with us, about what matters, about what counts and what doesn't.
and about why we tell ourselves those particular stories.