Suncatcher, it is also going on 4 months since my AXBF left. He was coming home from a camping trip called me told me he loved me and would be home in 2 hours never saw him again except for him to pick up his belongings from our home. gothbatbie, When he picked up his things he said he was trying to straighten things out with himself but really his drinking buddys didn't like him having to leave the bars to come home to me. Well long story short he was just arrested for the 3rd time so he won't be spending time with anyone but his cellmates for quite awhile. Don't get me wrong I still love the man but my sanity is more important and I just hope that someday he will be happy