Is your wife an addict?
Abandon hope all ye who enter.
My wife's addiction destroyed our marriage.
She went from closet alcoholism, neglect of children and home, reckless destructive handling of finances, to getting a job, indulging addiction, finding new addictions (adderall) etc. etc. allowing herself to be used like a ***** and ultimately abandoning a 25 year marriage and three kids, so she can pretend to be a 20 something party ****...nice. I'm doing my best with my kids and we'll be okay.
My advice is this, to any guys that find themselves faced with an addict wife:
Collect plenty of data / evidence.
Talk to a good lawyer and get advice.
Chances are probably 90% + that things will NOT improve.
Set hard ultimatums quickly and firmly.
Call her out early , publicly, do not conceal her addictions...it helps no one.
Prepare to rebuild your life without her and treat the relationship as though she had died.
Me?...I'm not bitter.