Here is one of the stickies from the top of the forum, with links to articles on abuse. Whether you see it that way or not, you are a victim of domestic abuse. No one has a right to lay their hand on you. It doesn't matter if they've been drinking, they have NO RIGHT to touch you. You are also a victim of emotional abuse (I don't think there's an alcoholic relationship that is free from emotional abuse).
About Abuse
So much of your post is about him. We are here to talk about you, and how you can help yourself. So, let's talk about you. How are you doing?