For me I have just realized it's easier to STAY sober than to GET sober. I got soooo tired of how I felt AFTER drinking and the drama that ensued - I finally came to the conclusion - it's just not worth the aftermath I go through. My last relapse was a 3 week bender (after detox treatment). I thought I could "go back to fun drinking". I've just past that point where I can't drink anymore. It's not fun - it's not worth it. So I don't.