I feel your pain worriedmind. When my XAB lived with me what you described was a typical scenario at my place too. He would get angry and defensive if I mentioned his drinking in any way. I was just supposed to be happy to see his glazed over face behind the tower of empty beer cans in front of him! When he wasn't drinking at my place he was at the bar and then I would call him and pick him up drag him back home and it would stArt over again. He would drink I would pick him up or watch him drink and then he would pass out and get up in the middle of the night and pee on my carpet and furniture. He on e raised his fist at me when I tried to direct him to the bathroom! I slowly started to detach myself and ended up moving an hour away from him to regain some of my sanity. Take care of you first and foremost. I was in that mess for five years. I still love him but from a distance now it's healthier for me that way and hopefully for him too.