Originally Posted by
lolaiswaiting 
I heard someone say once that there's really nothing wrong with placing your self worth on your partner, if your partner loves and cherishes you. Because then you will love and cherish yourself.
It is my greatest wish for women everywhere that this Disney-fied romantic idea dies a quiet, gentle death someday and soon. What's wrong with it, of course, is that the only person who is with you every minute of every day, who is guaranteed to place your best interest above anyone else's, who never loses out by being kind and respectful to you, who won't ever leave you for any reason, is you. If one can ONLY love and cherish themselves because someone else does, then one will constantly be disappointed and heartbroken.
I am so sorry you are struggling right now and going through such a difficult time. It seem like your ex only makes your life more difficult, but I understand it is hard to let go. Sending you strength and hugs.