Thanks a lot lizwig. You're obviously a very empathetic person. I appreciate everyone's posts. While we have only dated for 4 months, I forgot to mention that we've been very good friends for years, and she has had over a year of sobriety in the past. So I have the confidence that she can and hopefully will again. I have to help her both on a conscience level and because she is in the hole close to $1,000 and if she doesn't start to climb out of this hole as quickly as possible, she will be homeless and from there, there is no way she won't start using again. I'm upset, but I'm mainly concerned with her not dying which as you all know is the worst of all possible outcomes.