Originally Posted by
Mags1 
Thank you ImEnt your words are valuable.
An old cliche but I don't want anyone else that doesn't mean I will stay just for the sakes of it.
You're right, I don't know how to connect. I will try though. For the first time in my life I am sober in a relationship and it's hard where to start when I have been married to him for 20 years. I know him but I don't know him and I especially don't know me.
I hope this makes sense, as my head is all over. I don't know how I managed alcohol infused but sober I'm very shy.
Shyness is not necessary. For anyone. Ever. If that makes sense.
How do you connect? Set yourself aside and step into the other person. In this case your husband, but you can do this with anyone. See the world through their eyes. It will give you the understanding you need.