Thank you, everyone. It definitely does sound like I need to at least have an initial consultation with an attorney. I guess I've avoided that because it feels more real/final to me? Idk.
Thanks, MsFixit & Jazzman, I hadn't considered that they may consider the inheritance joint money since we commingled the funds. They are initially traceable: inheritance straight to separate investment account, straight into our first house. The tricky part is that this is our 3rd house. I could give him more of my 401k to account for the 1/2 he's entitled to plus 1/2 of the "joint" equity in our house if the inheritance is considered separate. If it's considered joint property, I probably can't keep the house. I really don't want to uproot the kids if I can avoid it.
So many things to think about. Thankfully, I see my therapist tomorrow
