I actually relate in a few ways (that would be kinda complex to fully articulate), and I just want to say, hang in there. I do know that in dynamics where one partner is sober and the other is still drinking (is he drinking? did I miss that?), our sobriety needs to be a major priority. I hope that you guys can get into some sort of counseling. My wife and I did, and it really helped, if anything, having someone there to help us express to our partner what we feeling--without starting a war--is so helpful. But whatever, stay focused on your sobriety. I hope the best for you guys, I really do.