I wonder that if my husband ever gets sober and sticks with it (he was sober yesterday, and he was so nice and enjoyable to be around, but drunk again today which was hell on Earth) what its like to go out with friends for something as mundane as a dinner together. Or heck, even just a regular date night. Is it okay to order a glass of wine if your spouse is recovering, is it being too sensitive/codependent to not do what you would normally do? And same goes for vacations. It's like your whole life changes by just one choice that you have to be so acutely aware of now. I'm glad that your story has taken a positive turn and I hope I someday soon have a similarly positive story to share.