Hi KTF
Jenny's right - the boundaries have to be about us. Otherwise it's about control.
There are loads of threads on this if you want to do a search and read further.
Here's one that helped me
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ad.php?t=31111
One thing I always try and remember with boundaries is that there needs to be a consequence i.e. if X happens, then I will Y. And I make sure I do Y. Otherwise it's not a boundary.
Good luck
Love
Minnie
xxx