Whatever efforts he is making toward "reconciliation" are still utterly self-motivated and driven by a need to protect his disease(s) and his status quo.... none of it sounds a bit remorseful, accepting of any responsibility or showing a desire to TRULY change.
Yes, exactly. In hindsight, a lot of these excuses by my STBXAH were about trying to keep his status quo and his enabler handy. When I did finally let go, he found new enablers very quickly.