Hi Trudging. Over the last month you have been so much help in my personal journey of sobriety. You have shared experiences and at times kicked me in the butt a little when needed!
I wish I had something really profound to offer, but I don't. I don't think you should let hubby off the hook because of any guilt you might feel about your behavior. I've always been told by my wife that she knows what's best for me regardless of what I think.
She was very tolerant over the years. Sometimes I wish she would have not been so tolerant. I don't know what would have happened but I might have come to my senses sooner. Especially if she would have acted early on when I was practicing for my problem.