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EternalQ Don't you all think ambivalence is part of grief? Isn't that one of the stages? Shock, denial, depression, anger, guilt, bargaining, acceptance?
When you end a relationship... even if it has become bad for your life and your mental health, you still have feelings of wanting to go back in the warly days of the break up. Even though you know on the surface it seems crazy to want someone that you know is bad for you, you still do. You minimize all the negatives it caused you and your life, and romanticize and exagerate the good parts as you fantasize about reuniting.
Why should breaking off with alcohol be any different?
I love this, Eternal! I have noticed that like a bad relationship, the further I get away from alcohol, the stronger I feel and the less I want the relationship back. When I do get a craving to drink, it isn't as strong as in the beginning of my sobriety. It is more nostalgic.