Thanks Kathy,
I know there are good people at alanon, and one inconsiderate doesn't a whole barrel make, but have surgery looming on the horizon so I am going to have to put it off for awhile. Will look into it again when I have all my ducks in a row, and that is debatable.
For now I am holding my own. I think my biggest frustration is that I can never depend on him when I need him, which has become less and less, as time goes along. Drinking sure can make a marriage flounder. Have to get out of this mode or I'll be crying in my cups. Hope your day is a good one. sher