Welcome Britters. There is much help here as well as AA IF we absorb it in a healthy way. It took too long for me to understand and accept many things I heard. I hated the word alcoholic while I was drinking! At some point someone suggested that I instead accept the concept that I could not drink alcohol in safety and that was softer to my sensitivity.
I needed listening at many meetings to become comfortable in my skin and so continue to go many years later and know it works if we work it.
BE WELL