Refiner

Sorry to hear this, BookNerd. What do you think you need to figure out how to make a living on your own? I like the other person's idea of playing along (two can play at this game) as long as he's being nice to you. Open your own private bank account and get your own credit cards. Figure out your exit plan all while keeping the peace. Once YOUR house is in order for the exit, confront him with your knowledge and say BYE. It doesn't need to be a divorce (at first) if you don't want it. I truly think he needs to hit rock bottom and realize what he's lost and WANT HELP in order to be serious about obtaining help... not just putting on a front in order to make YOU happy (and he obviously isn't doing that very well, either).