I like to think of myself as learning to be a better me as opposed to in recovery.
I never realized how controlling and miserable I was until I learned the 3 Cs. This set me free! I just didn't understand that I didn't have try to control or fix AH's drinking because it wasn't mine to fix.
Then i could look at him and think, do whatever you'd like, I'm still going to have a nice day and you can't stop me!
AH is recently RAH for about 2 months now. Things are much better, but I'm very cautiously optimistic.
My next self project is working on my anxiety...