CD, you said that you think goals and counting days was hurting you. I find goal setting helpful and what is helping me is just constantly moving the bar. I originally told myself (and my husband) that I was giving it one month. Then I noticed I liked sobriety so I wanted to make it to my new liver. Now I really want to make it to three months because a majority of people have said that is when sobriety starts being a good bit easier, plus that will get me past the holidays. Forever seems too daunting to manage right now, and one day at a time gets tedious and obsessive (although it helped me a lot the first few weeks), but I find that having some goals has been helpful for me.