LIZ--It has always seemed like your husband has been in the "driver's seat" in your relationship. With him at the helm directing the way--with you as merely a passenger reacting to him. Him defining the course.
This would be the first time that you would be making a decision as to the course of your l ife. You in the drivers seat. You at the helm. (no doubt he will do a lot of reacting--trying to take the wheel back, so to speak).
dandylion